So long… Farewell….
‘You need to just let it go’, a phrase that I’ve heard numerous times from my friends/family… more easily said than done. To me when someone says “let it go” it means that I need that to stop, I have reached the end, and there is nothing else I can do…it means, goodbye.
Now, here’s MY problem: I wasn’t raised to be quitter, and I’m stubborn as hell, so saying goodbye to something or someone has never been easy for me to do. I try, try, try, and try to make things work, but the older I get, I begin to realize that there are some situations that you really do just need to let go. In my opinion, deep down inside you know that some things are just not meant to be, and it doesn’t matter how hard you to try to make it work, it just doesn’t… the hard part is realizing that it’s OK to quit (sometimes)!! It’s time to learn that saying GOODbye, can be a GOOD thing.
When it comes to people, saying goodbye is not necessarily the hardest part. For me, it’s learning to not say hello again. For whatever BS reason you give yourself and your friends for letting someone back into your life, more than likely, the truth is, you do it because you’re vulnerable. It’s so easy to slip back into something that’s routine, trust me, I know — bad habits are hard to break. No one said it was going to be easy, but learn from your mistakes, and move on. If I can do it, you can do it. Not too long ago, I had to say goodbye to someone, it hurt…ugh…it hurt a lot, and all I could think was “wow, this blows”, but I also thought “I never want to feel this way again”. At first I thought going back would make this distressed feeling go away, but after going back once, twice, ok, ok, 8 times (give or take a few), I finally learned. To make this feeling go away permanently, I need to slam close the door, permanently.
OK, door’s closed, feeling alone? Probably. Whose fault is that? Yours. You chose to be alone, like peacock said, you are in charge of your own feelings. You have plenty of people (family, friends, co-workers…try to stay away from the random “jerks off’s”) to surround yourself with, you know you do. Finally, here’s the GOOD part, saying goodbye to someone/something old, means that you now have the chance to say “hi there” to someone/something new. Tell me, what are you letting go? Who are you saying goodbye to? Hopefully, for me, it’s going to be goodbye loser-living-in-his-parents-basement, and hello grad school (*fingers crossed*).
:::puma:::
Goodbye Butter,
I know we had a really good run, but I think this relationship has just run its course. When we first met, I saw you everyday. I put you on toast, folded you into cupcakes, and never thought of baking anything without you. You, cream cheese, and I had a set date every Sunday to sit down and bake something with at least 2000 calories in it.
Unfortunately as the months went by, I realized something had to change. I pleaded with you to be a little healthier. I even tried to hang out with your younger, slimmer sister Margarine. I think it’s time to go cold turkey though. Though I gaze at your longingly through the plastic shield of butter keeper in the fridge, I am putting my foot down. I’m going to say hello exclusively to butter-free bread pudding from now on.
Dear Puma
All women can relate to that story. It’s so hard to say goodbye because in most cases bad relationships are as are addictive as crack. You are hooked the first time you try it and you keep on coming back always searching for that sensation you got on your first high. Congratulations for getting rid of the toxic waste you didn’t need in your life and staying hopeful for the real thing. Who knows when THE Right person will come along.
Good job getting rid of that loser.